Secrets to a successful all-natural birth

13 Sep


21st April 2015: after a 4 hour labour my second child arrived as an unassisted-lotus born baby.

No drugs, no medical intervention and no disturbances.

“You were lucky” people said first time round when I birthed in this manner,…..

“it was bound to be easier for your second baby” people commented when they were unaware that my first child was also an unassisted-lotus birth.

Truth is that neither luck nor amount of birth experience have anything to do with birthing totally naturally.

The secrets lie in the power of your strength of mind alongside a few other factors which only you can control:

  1. Unwavering faith and belief in your body’s capability to birth unimpeded, as nature designed it to be.
  2. Absolute and genuine support, trust and positivity from all those who you choose to involve with during your pregnancy and birth period.
  3. To switch from the rational frontal part of your brain (and the noise from anyone elses’) to your limbic, mammalian brain in order to enter into the birth zone where you will draw from intuition and wisdom stored in the DNA from generations of natural birthing women.
  4. An ability to completely surrender to the inevitable and intense sensations: relinquishing control, letting go and relaxing into the experience. This can be learnt through hypno-birthing.

“But it’s ok for you” I hear you cry….”you had no birth complications.’ Well no I did not have a breach baby, or multiples, or a particularly ‘large’ baby or the cord wrapped around the neck or Shoulder Dystocia or Placenta Previa.

Guess what though, I did my research and came across at least one women for each of these categories who still managed a natural birth in spite of these complications. In the process I found out all sorts of interesting information that’s not so widespread amongst the birth fear-mongerers. For example, the placenta continues to deliver oxygen to the baby for a whole 5 minutes after the birth leaving plenty of time to unwrap a nuchal cord without causing danger of suffocation. Furthermore I learnt that a lot of the problems that arise during the average medicalised birth are actually caused by the initial medical interventions and disturbances of the natural birth process. By forcing the birth process in a time pressured manner, the artificial induction of a birth can create stronger and more painful contractions amongst other interferences in the delicate hormonal balance.


If you allow your body to naturally secrete the hormones in each stage of birth as it was designed to without the interference of man-made drugs then the female body will not risk putting the baby’s life at risk by rushing the delivery. Relax in a safe space and calm environment and your body will dilate as it needs to. Move and position yourself according to your body’s own signals and push only when your body tells you to and the baby will respond accordingly by moving into the correct position that it needs to take in order to arrive safely.

It really is that simple. SIMPLE but not easy. Natural birthing takes courage, the kind of courage you are going to need to get through parenthood and build a strong relationship with your children so don’t bail out on them now!

It all starts here with a peaceful, non-violent birth. Birth DOES matter as it sets the foundations of the baby’s trust in the world around them and colours all future experiences and interactions into childhood and beyond.

7 Responses to “Secrets to a successful all-natural birth”

  1. Mary C (@MC_Tucson) September 13, 2015 at 8:22 pm #

    This is a powerful ovamonial about the ecology of being female. And it shows that even though women in industrial culture have been sorely miseducated about our bodies & minds by patriarchal medicine and our own imprints of our mother’s experiences, we can unlearn this miseducation/trauma, and reclaim the force and wisdom of nature in our bones.

    Thank you Adele, for sharing your experiences with the world. Ecological birth is our birthright.

  2. Jahaira January 7, 2016 at 4:22 pm #

    I am so glad to read this…I am 33 weeks and this time around , I have gone to ob appointments with the the thought of having them as a back up, just in case. I have been contemplating home birth the whole time…even reading hypnobirthing and doing the techniques every day. I feel more confident in myself than the hospital. I have been twice before with different practices, different hospitals and both times, they were dishonest with me, treated me like my tailbone and hip dislocation was a myth and sneaking unnecessary medication in me causing allergic reaction, even though the med was on my chart as an allergen. I just want to be left alone, I believe in my body and am praying I can do this. I just want to be home.

    • adeleyonline January 8, 2016 at 7:01 am #

      Glad you found it helpful. Best of luck to you on your birth. Follow your heart and trust your instincts and your baby will thank you dearly. X

      • Jahaira January 8, 2016 at 4:39 pm #

        Thank YOU!!! Sharing your experience gives me more strength, if that makes sense!

  3. Amy August 1, 2016 at 12:43 am #

    You are very lucky you have had two successful safe home births however had I not been in hospital my son would have died,no amount of wishful thinking would of made everything okay . He had severe wrapping of the cord around his neck and wasn’t breathing adequately on his own. He needed serious help very quickly and so grateful of the Dr’s and nurses that day that jumped into action. Not every birth goes to plan and has a happy ending. My mother was a midwife for 20 years and I think it is an amazing job to undertake. I do believe it’s possible to birth naturally for some woman and that’s great but without the Dr’s and nurses who really do have mum and bubs interests at heart so many babies may not be here today. My own husband along with his twin brother was born prematurely at 30 weeks and is wonderfully healthy 32 years later. He wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit). I guess I’m just saying we should celebrate all types of births no birth is the right way, people shouldnt judge if a baby wasnt born naturally,it is what it is and the out come is hopefully a healthy baby.

    • jj September 13, 2016 at 1:13 pm #

      Ob’s do far more harm than good. You would have been better off without then no matter what they told you. Nuchal cord is no big.

  4. MO October 11, 2016 at 10:06 pm #

    Congratulations on your successful birth experiences. You should feel a tremendous sense of accomplishment. However, you were also incredibly lucky to be able to birth at home. I developed preeclampsia at 37 weeks and both my daughter and I could have died without medical intervention. And let’s be real here. Childbirth is just one day (or two or three, but you get the idea. To say it “sets the foundations of the baby’s trust in the world around them and colours all future experiences and interactions into childhood and beyond” is a complete exaggeration. My birth experience was so traumatic that my husband literally suffered PTSD afterward, including flashbacks. Despite this, my daughter is peaceful, affectionate, curious, and precocious. Not to sound arrogant, but I get comments all the time about how lucky I am to have such an easy baby. The natural birth movement has many positive qualities, but to portray natural birth as feasible for any woman who is simply tough enough or that hospital interventions will permanently traumatize a baby are irresponsible and create a sort of female “machismo” that contributes to the feelings of inadequacy many women who have intervention-ridden births experience.

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